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How to Be There for Loved Ones This Season

December 23, 2024  |  family, mental health, Mindfulness, relationships
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Holiday Check-In:

How to Be There for Loved Ones This Season

The holidays can bring a mixed bag of emotions. For some people, it’s all about joy and a carefree celebration. For others, the hustle and bustle of the holidays can amplify stress, financial pressures, and the strain of complicated family situations.

In the winter months, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can also take a toll, adding to feelings of sadness or fatigue. For someone already facing mental health challenges, this time of year can be especially overwhelming.

The good news? A simple check-in can go a long way in reminding them they’re not alone.

Here are three thoughtful ways to be there for loved ones who may be struggling this holiday season:

 

1.     Start the Conversation

Despite a popular myth, suicide rates don’t peak during the holidays. However, that doesn’t mean the holidays aren’t a very challenging time for many.

In fact, it’s common for depression symptoms to set in leading up to the holidays and linger after they pass. If you notice that a loved one is feeling sad, lethargic, or just not like themselves, say something.

Here are a few ways to gently ask about depression:

●      “I’ve noticed you seem a bit down lately. How are you, really?”

●      “I know the holidays can be tough. I’m here if you want to talk.”

●      “You haven’t been keeping up with your favorite hobby or activity. Is something going on?”

Anytime someone is feeling sad or hopeless for more days than not, it’s a good time to seek help from a mental health professional.

 

2.    Be Present and Listen Without Judgment

When a loved one opens up to you about their mental health, the best thing you can do is simply listen. You don’t have to offer advice, solve their problems, or even try to relate to what they’re going through.

 You can show support by:

 ●      Give them your full attention

●      Create a safe, judgment-free zone

●      Offer a hand to hold or a pillow to hug

●      Validate their feelings

●      Avoid unhelpful comments like, “Just think positive” or “It could be worse.” 

 

People need to feel seen and understood. Sometimes, just knowing that someone cares is all they need to take the next step toward healing.

 

3.    Keep Checking In

When someone is struggling with suicidal thoughts, they falsely believe they’re a burden to others. As a result, you may need to be persistent before someone is willing to open up. Keep trying—it’s worth it.

Remember, it’s not true that asking if someone is suicidal will push them to do it. Talking directly about the issue can help someone feel safe enough to seek the help they need.  

Is someone on your mind this holiday season? Check in on them today. A moment of care could even save a life.

 

Need Help Now?

If you or someone you know is thinking of harming themselves or in a crisis, don’t leave them alone. Call or text the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8 immediately. Help is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.